An 'innocent' rebel of sorts. Recovering Paranoia Activity star. Finding myself: Join me.
Monday 27 July 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
Wednesday 22 July 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
[Laughs]
This made me question my relationship status...
... so did this...
[Laughs even harder]
Ah, but this... this almost made me question my sexuality:
More than eight years of knowing each other and it's still a mystery... |
I could always kill off my tomboyish persona -- you know, make it all grim and bloody like the scariest horror films -- just to make sure she's actually dead... then get well-acquainted with makeup, skirts and handbags, saunter around in stilettos everyday to show off my incredible mommy-'long'-legs while I reaffirm my sexuality. Oh! then there's making a press release each time I find someone new...
But I'll pass.
Ain't no one more comfy, happy and liberated than a single, sexually deprived female in sneakers, hoodies and jeans (don't forget; with the alleged lesbianism).
The right relationship will just have to find me when the clock strikes 'yes'.
- Trace
Tuesday 14 July 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
17:11 p.m., Tuesday, 14 July 2015
Newtown, Jo'burg
I (used to) have a mammoth of a crush on this guy I know... until I just remembered an acquaintance said I look exactly like his ex.
Damn it. (He just had to, didn't he.)
There goes any feeling of attraction I had for this oke.
Monday 13 July 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
Thursday 9 July 2015
TTS: Super Situations
Picture Source: majoro.deviantart.com |
TTS: Interludes of Life
You’ve got to love a great book.
Wednesday 8 July 2015
Between the Blank Spaces
14 March 2014, 12:59PM
Somewhere in Somewhere Land
‘I think I’m in love you.’
'No, you’re not, honey.’
'I really think I am.’
'You’re not in love, you’re deeply infatuated right now. You’ve been dazzled by the way I talk and what I say; by how I think and how much we have in common; by the kind of person you think I am and how I make you feel as a result. You might be falling, yes -- falling into the ecstasy of this moment. But not for me. Soon, you will have come back to your senses, forgotten about me and fallen for another, as it is with children and dreams. Rather you tell me you’re infatuated -- something we both can live with, without losing much of our sanity.’
TTS: Project NEXT: Photo Shoot
I thought I wasn't going to make this a blog for pictures -- like I did with my Tumblr blog, but sometimes, I just can't help it.
I had a shoot taken in May for Project NEXT, courtesy of my good friend and talented writer, academic, photographer-extraordinaire, Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri. I felt a little out of place being in front of, and not behind the camera, but it was great fun (put aside the bone-chilling weather). Bezi has a fantastic eye for detail, and she did an incredible job on all the shots (three cheers and a bottle of champagne for her!). We used three locations, but I'll give you a sneak peak of a few from the first one -- you'll have to wait a little longer to see the others. :)
Photographer: Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri Location: Newton, Johannesburg And this, friends, is the money shot. :) |
Photographer: Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri
Location: Newton, Johannesburg
I like how my shadow complements me in this one.
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Photographer: Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri
Location: Newton, Johannesburg
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Photographer: Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri Location: Newton, Johannesburg Yes... I do have a belly-button ring... |
Photographer: Nyembezi 'Bezi' Phiri Location: Newton, Johannesburg Distinctly one of my favourites. |
Photo Credit: Nyembezi Phiri (saved from Whatsapp) |
Tuesday 7 July 2015
Late for My Own Life
That was school for me – being late - almost every day. Yep – late. Almost. Every. Single. Day. Besides going when I felt like it, I deliberately chose to be late. Silly me. Although I always felt a sense of urgency and remorse on my way there, I wasn’t the least bit bothered otherwise (so much for being a teacher’s pet). A lot of the times, I even did my homework on the way. Why couldn’t I get an A for multitasking?
TTS :Interludes of Life
Someone (we'll refer to 'someone' as Cute Guy) recently asked me why I don't keep up with basketball anymore, and I can't remember exactly what my response was, but it was something along the lines of, 'I lost interest in it'.
I lied.
Truth is, like a lot of other things, I suppressed my interest in it. I could have explained why, but it's a lot easier to say I lost interest.
Well, here's what happened:
After 'the apocalypse', I pushed a lot of people away, did fewer things and cut out anything that reminded me of her. No Celine Dion or Mariah Carey. Or certain foods. Or certain movies. Or certain places. Or certain things. Or even basketball. Even to this day, I haven't had the courage to face some of these things again -- they honestly always bring me to tears as I'm forcefully reminded of what life was like with her and I don't want that. I have -- to a great deal -- abandoned that life. While I've addressed certain things, I've been running for almost four years; I haven't yet mustered the courage to manage the aftermath just yet.
My love for the game is still there, I'm just not ready to welcome it back yet. To be honest, the nostalgia of thinking about it as I write this nauseates me.
I'm ending this post.
Maybe one day I'll sing a different tune, folks. But today, I'm just not ready.
Thursday 2 July 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
Okay, I've snapped out of it. No more.
So, goodbye charming-guy-who-knows-he's-charming-and-is-a-little-arrogant-but-the-sweetest-when-he-can't-help-it. I haven't forgotten that charismatic smile of yours. I've hoped for ages now we'd serendipitously cross paths or meet again (strange how you never run into someone you desperately want to see, eh), but then maybe you'd lose the appeal you have over me since I've probably been wooed by your shadow. Wherever you are, I'm bidding you farewell. You made for a nice wonderwall while it lasted, and I'm sure a thing with you would've been karmically awesome! (If only I had the guts to do this over Whatsapp.)
Wednesday 1 July 2015
Brand Whores And The Commercial Beast
Picture Credit: thecoolhunter.net |
Saturday 27 June 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
23:25 p.m., Saturday, 27 June 2015
I should be writing.
I've got a trial for a promising opportunity, and I should be compiling sample articles and whatever, but I'm not. I'm exhausted, actually. And slightly tipsy from an occasional bottle of rosé.
I have tons of research from the past three days, and a plentitude of ideas to execute; guess I'll do that first thing tomorrow morning. Or later before I turn in for the night. Truth be told, it's flipping exciting, but I'm quite nervous. I'm stumped because opportunities like these are usually only open to people with the right degree or qualification, and all I have is autodidactation... but I guess that's more than enough -- I mean, look where I stand now. I just hope I can deliver at the writing standards of this prestigious company. Why I always feel incompetent whenever I think something's far too good for me, I have no idea. But I believe this opportunity was given to me for a reason, and I'm taking it -- even if my hands are trembling.
My awesome meeting with J and M today gave me the silent inspiration I needed to realise no dream is too big; even for someone like me, who tends to second guess her talent at every turn.
Ain't no time for that though, honey, you've got work to do.
I'll let you know how it goes...
Friday 26 June 2015
Don’t Get Cocky Too Quick
Picture Credit: tattly.com Tina Roth Eisenberg |
But until that glorious moment – when you famously have the world at your feet, put your best face on, get yourself and your act together, come up with a long-term plan for yourself, and start building your brand – one loyal fan at a time.
Wednesday 24 June 2015
TTS: Project NEXT Update
TTS: Interludes of Life
Thursday 18 June 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life
11:27a.m., Thursday, 18 June 2015
At The Workplace
Just. Great.
Our power's gone out. And I have noodles for lunch. Just my luck...
I'm not starving, so I guess I'll make it to the end of the day -- well, if it comes down to it. What I'm battling now is trying to keep awake and sane on less than 3 hours of sleep. Yes: now I understand why I've never bought into the idea of going out on a week day.
Ah, but I hold no regrets; I had a fantastic night out with B. What should've just been a little catch-up session over wine at The Smokehouse and Grill in Braam between two old friends (I don't like the feel of that last sentence -- besides the fact that I dislike making any public reference to Braam (aka Cool Kid Central), it feels snotty, although it's true), turned into dinner, a night of chatting and a debate party of three. We spoke about a lot: Artists and the commercialisation of their work, 'unethical' brand endorsements, culture, magic, spirit, interesting writers, fascinating docu-films on YouTube, skin tone, urban to rural migration, social castes, being frugal... and we didn't realise we were there way after closing time; those poor waiters... we barely noticed people had started leaving ages ago. Of course, it would've been great if Twin was with us, but our meeting was so last minute and on the spur of the moment, we didn't actually plan anything.
After we had such a good time, we decided we couldn't leave things high and dry, so B and I said our goodbyes to our male companion and hopped off to Kitchener's (a place I'm -- to put it lightly -- not particularly fond of for political and personal reasons. Yes, I'm a shrewd; bite me.) Little did I know, we'd remain there until about 02:50a.m., then head home to indulge in more conversation before hitting the sack. I swear; there's never a dull moment with B.
I needed that.
And now that the electricity's back, I need to make me some noodles.
Wednesday 17 June 2015
TTS: The Perfect Stranger: Le Sensual Belle
18:67 p.m., Saturday, 13 September 2014
Springfield, Massachusetts, USA
(From the diary of Le Sensual Belle)
Contrary to popular belief, there's nothing sinister about my work. I simply have sex in front of a camera and get paid for it, and a lot of the time, I enjoy it.
You can say it: Jee. Sus. She's a pornstar.
Yes; I am a pornstar. An erotic actress, if you will. Even though I'm a pornstar, it's disappointing to say that I've made myself cum more times than all the guys I've screwed in my lifetime, put together, times two. That's why I find it comically hilarious when I hear a man brag about what a beast he is in bed. These imbeciles tend to confuse physical attributes with technique. Really -- most of these men have penises the size of fucking tree trunks, but very few of them even know what to do with them. Their performance can be on a minus one, but they're often lied to by women about it, so each time a woman tells them how 'effing amazing' they are, they make real beasts in bed look like Godzilla. I plead with these unnecessarily sympathetic women: Stop lying to these pathetic airheads. They're already convinced they rule the world, and now you want to assure them they're sexual gods? Unbelievable.
Sex -- you'd probably be surprised to hear this, doesn't run my life. It's my job to have these men bonk me, but my every day lifestyle isn't as rogue as most people probably assume; I live a pretty normal life beyond that. One of the perks of being a pornstar is that most conservative men (and women) would be reluctant to point me out to friends and family if they ever saw me in public (with the exception that he or she's a proud perv), because they're more concerned with not revealing their carefully hidden perversity. So I head out to the store in my conservative neighbourhood, buy my eggs, milk and whipped cream like every else, smile as I take note of the silent and shamed stares people give me, before heading home to make dinner and fantasize about the man of my dreams. We pornstars still believe in love, as strange as it sounds. We might sleep with plenty of men, but it's not like we've given our hearts to any of them. That part of our lives is quite sacred, and regardless of what I do for a living, even just as sacred as you uphold love in your life. I still get hurt like anyone else when I'm fucked around (pun intended), but it hasn't stopped me believing that there's someone, somewhere out there, looking for a girl just like me.
*This is a fictional piece. Any direct resemblance to anyone is mere coincidence.
Tuesday 16 June 2015
The Perfect Stranger: Unbeauty
19:25 p.m., Wednesday, 3 June 2015
Turffontein, Johannesburg
(From the diary of Abiola Madi)
I've been in this physical form for 33 years of my existence, and I'm still searching for it. I've looked just about everywhere -- even under my eye bags, but it's just not there, or anywhere else. I might notice something that hints at a small possibility every now and then that I have it, but for the most part, I've accepted that I'm far plainer than Jane; my looks are as average as they come. Quite honestly, I don't think I'm that bad, but based on today's standards of beauty, clearly I'm a lost cause.
It's frustrating because everyone treats beauty as though it's a rite of passage for women -- a prerequisite for acceptance from the world and for validation from the male species; that without it, you're reduced to nothing. All of us can think of an instance when someone was treated advantageously because of their perceived good looks -- and it happens all the time in court as well: Goodlooking suspects usually gain more sympathy and empathy from the court than their unattractive counterparts. I guess people figure ugly people have it a lot easier in jail. And that's the way it is in the normal world, too. Call it stupidity if you will, but it's a universal law we all unconsciously seem to agree to.
An aunt once told me if I was at least three shades lighter, I might've stood a good chance at being pretty, and she's done her best to 'help' by buying me bottles and tubs of various skin lightening creams and washes. But I never use them. There's tons of this stuff tucked away in my wardrobe. Come to think of it, I might actually get away with selling them on the black-market, that's if I never succumb to the social pressure of bleaching; but I'm quite used to being the black sheep of the family anyway, so to speak, so I doubt that would happen. My dear aunt even suggested that I marry a lightskinned black, or even white man in order to save my kids from the burden of being born dark. Yes; it's quite sad that well into the 21st century, mindsets like these haven't changed. But I can't blame her: With constant brainwashing by the media at large about what's beautiful and what's not, it can be very hard to accept anything else.
I've come to the realisation that maybe my conventional beauty doesn't reside on my face or my skin. Or maybe it does, but I'll probably never see it until I stop looking at it with eyes of what I hope to see instead of seeing what's really there.
If people don't feel comfortable with my skin tone or my face, they should stop looking. For the first time in my life, I can honestly say I'm learning to live in my skin; I'm at that stage where I'm gradually accepting that this is the way I'll spend the rest of my life. Saying I love it would be an exaggeration of the truth as I'm still learning to overcome the years of taunting, bullying and teasing because of it, but I'm not too far from home.
I'll get there one day.
*This is a fictional piece. Any direct resemblance to anyone is mere coincidence.
Monday 8 June 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life: The Projext
21:16p.m., Friday, 22 May 2015
My latest project seems to be coming together promisingly. I've taken up a universal vow of silence to keep unmanifested versions of my realities (aka my dormant, procrastinated ideas and projects) to myself until they are materialised, otherwise if I don't, I've noticed I have a habit of telling anyone and everyone about what I'm planning or working on and in the process, trick myself into feeling I've completed them already. But this one's got me extremely excited; I want to be able to document my journey, so I'll simply refer to it as Project X. It's nothing original, but for the basic purpose of having a 'pseudonym' for it, it'll do for now. Or what about NEXT? Yes; let's call it Project NEXT, rather. I'm going to have to tread lightly with this one since I don't want to intentionally, or even unintentionally reveal too much; I'm giving closed transparency a shot here... Bare with me.
I'm very excited about Project NEXT! I've spent so much time planning, and re-planning, and re-re-planning (over a decade to be exact... ridiculous, I know), that I feel it's about time I just revealed whatever it is I've been crafting. But you know with perfectionists -- things never seem good enough. I've realised it doesn't have to be good though; it just needs to be done. (This will take more than a day to internalise and accept. It's a lot to take in, but not to worry -- I'm still breathing.) That's my new motto, by the way, courtesy of Eat Pray Love's literary sensation and one of my human obsessions, Elizabeth Gilbert.
I think you'll be glad to know I've sent my mental obsessive companion on an untimed vacation for this one, so while the the critical cat's away, the creative, menacing mice will play. I feel I have so much leg room to work with, I'm not sure I quite know where to begin. The starting point is usually the best place, they say: Now to actually find it...
Wednesday 3 June 2015
TTS: Snippet
Friday 29 May 2015
TTS: Interludes of Life: Karma My Sutra
Monday 25 May 2015
Who needs picture-perfect, when you have the perfect picture?
-- Tracy Wilbon